My Hero

My sister and her husband came down to visit this past holiday weekend. They drove all the way from New York State and stayed just a few days.  While they were here, my mom treated us to dinner at a higher end chain restaurant.  It was great.  You could almost say we had a food orgy as we eat a mountain of delicious delicacies and bantered back and forth.

In spite of us all being very specific about what we wanted to eat, there were a couple of glitches.  Out of the five of us ordering, two entries were brought out wrong.  Even though none of us  voiced any annoyance, the manager got involved and made it all right, plus offered us dessert on the house. She was very nice and bent over backwards to make sure we had a great time. 

When it came time to pay the check mom got  out her out her credit card. She placed it in the book on top of the check and sent it off.  When the receipt came back she appropriately signed her name and took her copy.  As she was putting her copy away in her purse, she found a coupon for the restaurant we were in and it was due to expire the next day.  While mom was trying to decide what to do, my sister took the coupon and went to the table behind us offering it to the guests sitting there.  They were stunned yet appreciative. 

My sister’s action makes her my hero. While some of us were selfishly deciding how to use the coupon before it expired, she had generosity on her mind and acted on it. I wish everyone was as thoughtful as she was.  In fact, I wish it had been me who had thought of giving away the coupon.  Not that I want to be better than her, but because it is my goal to be generous and here was a perfect opportunity and I flubbed it up. 

Generosity is not only a gift to another, it is a gift to ourselves.  It is like radar, in that you receive back what you gave out as well as more. But the idea of sharing what we have with others isn’t meant to be a selfish act.  It is meant to reflect the love we have for each other and all of God’s creation. It isn’t just about money either, generosity can be applied to anything. Try being generous with your love, with your time, with your knowledge, with your possessions, or with your faith.  As you freely share these things with others, you will soon find yourself abundant in that area.  That allows you to have more to give, which in turns brings more back to you and so on and so on. 

Become someone’s hero, by being generous. I intend to be more mindful of those occasions where I can make even a small difference.  By practising being generous in small ways, I will be more able to be generous in large ways.  Maybe someday I will be someone’s hero, whether I ever know it or not.

Peace and Love,


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Posted by on June 2, 2011 in generousity



One of my favorite authors, Dr. Wayne Dyer wrote, “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wow, what a great way to allude to the fact that our attitude makes all the difference in how we perceive life.  Instantaneously we can choose to overcome any negative ideal we hold true. I have chosen not to be a loser anymore.  Instead I choose to defeat whatever stands  in the way of my dreams. 

Fear was, for a long time, my dream killer. It controlled my life.  In fact, until recently, whenever I was faced with something I felt was beyond me, my inner voice would say, “I’m so scared.”  Now, I boldly tell myself, ” I will not let fear stand in my way of attaining my dreams because my dreams are bigger and better than all of my fear.’ 

I have always been a big dreamer, but turning those dreams into reality is a different story.  It wasn’t until I found myself planning to open an ice cream shoppe with my husband and mother that I realized I had lost other dreams because I let fear stand in the way.  In this instance, I am not sure if my fear was fear of failure or fear of success or a combination of the two, but at a certain point in the planning, I just wanted to turn around and run.  The thought of what we were trying to accomplish was so overwhelming that I wasn’t convinced we could make it work. Yet my partners didn’t feel the same way. Instead they kept moving toward the goal.  Eventually I came to realize that it was going to work and my fear subsided. 

Another time fear paralyzed me was in high school; I wasn’t the best student.  I realize now that my study skills had a lot to do with it, but at the time the fear that I wasn’t smart enough held me back from even trying.  I decided I would just cop out on life, get married and have a family. In the mean time all my siblings went on to college and I began to feel like the village idiot.  It wasn’t until my own children went off to college that I made an attempt to go myself.  I breezed through, graduating from one of the most prestigious colleges in the south.

I am writing all this so I may be an example. I want you to face fear straight on,so you can overcome it. Kick fear to the curb.  Most of what you fear will never comes to fruition anyway.  Rather than succumbing to fear, open the door to courage.  Take a deep breath in and say, “I am courageous.”  Breathe out saying, “I let go of fear.”  Whenever you feel fear, make this your mantra.  . 

A more abundant life is now open to you as you start living a life free of fear.  No longer will  you want your head to be hung in shame.You will smile more, and even stand up straighter as complete strangers acknowledge the new you. Dream big and work hard at making all those dreams come true.

Love and Abundance,


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Posted by on June 1, 2011 in Fear, self help, victorious life


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Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote that, “enthusiasm is one of the most powerful engines of success.  When you do a thing, do it with all your mind.  Put your whole soul into it.  Stamp it with your own personality.  Be active, be energetic, be enthusiastic and faithful and you will accomplish your object.  Nothing great was ever accomplished without enthusiasm.”  In my opinion, he was and still is, so right on about being enthusiastic.   

The most important thing we need to stay enthusiastic about is our life. Knowing what your long and short term goals are and then moving towards them is a good way to stay enthused.  One of the best ways to keep these goals in the forefront of your mind is to frame your goals into  a mission statement. This statement should include topics of importance to you such as wealth, family, spirituality, a car, a house, a job, etc.  Focusing on these goals and not paying unnecessary attention to peripheral ideas, will keep your mind from becoming cluttered with thoughts that might cause you to worry or even create fear.   Fear and worry are enthusiasm killers. 

Another way to stay enthusiastic is to be grateful for all things.  An attitude of gratitude leaves no room for negative thinking which can also kill enthusiasm.  By keeping a daily log of the things you are grateful for, you will automatically create enthusiasm for life.  As you write each statement down you will feel your enthusiasm building.  Your enthusiasm in turn will become a catalyst for others to feel good.  Think of it as a way of paying it forward.  How easy is that? 

Along with gratefulness and a life mission statement, it is important to forgive as unforgiveness can also be a detriment to enthusiasm.  When you are constantly perseverating over the wrongs done to you then you don’t have time to think about all the good things going for you.You will lose track of your goals and could even deviate from them altogether.  Lest we forget; unforgiveness isn’t good for you.  It can make you sick, emotionally and/or physically and it is hard to be enthusiastic when you don’t feel well. 

Another fun way to stay enthusiastic  is to create a vision board.  Mine takes up one whole wall in my office where I have a combination of both images and sayings.  Every time I look up from my computer I see my future already planned out. It is a constant reminder of what I want for myself and I work daily  towards those goals.

These four activities are a sampling of things you can do to remain enthusiastic about life, yet they aren’t the only ones.  Once you have embraced the need to stay enthused about your goals, you will figure out what you need to do in order to keep the momentum going, My list should be used as kick start to forming your own.

Good Luck in all your endeavors.  May the Enthusiasm be with you.

Peace, love and Joy,


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Posted by on May 31, 2011 in enthusiasm, self help


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To be Made in God’s Image

Humankind is God’s greatest creation.  We are made in His image.  When we can keep this in mind as the underpinning of everything else we think about, we can live a joyful, awesome life.

To be made in God’s image is to be made perfect

To be made in God’s image is to be loveable and have the capacity to love others to the fullest

To be made in God’s image is to have the desire to forgive fully and be fully forgiven.

To be made in God’s image is to already have what it takes to commune with Him

To be made in God’s image is to be no better or worse than your neighbor, your friend, or your enemy

To be made in God’s image is to be a reflection of Him who is the Great I Am

To be made in God’s image is to know you will never be given more to handle than you are able

To be made in God’s image is to have infinate knowledge available to you at all times

To be made in God’s image is to have the capacity to do so much more than you are doing.

To be made in God’s image is to  have an open line of communication to Him and from Him

To be made in God’s image is to have a larger capacity to love and forgive than to hate and fear

To be made in God’s image is to know the answers to all your questions are already in you

To be made in God’s image is to be able to love and accept yourself

To be made in God’s image is to find gratitude in all aspects of your life

To be made in God’s image is to count it all joy

To be made in God’s image is to live a life full of joyful expectancy

To be made in God’s image is to have faith that what is happening in your life is exactly what needs to be happening

To be made in God’s image is to be able to live, laugh, and love with gusto

Wow.  This post certainly didn’t turn out the way I expected it to, but I must listen to my muses who are far better tuned into the universe than I am and therefore knows exactly what needs to be shared.

Love, Peace and Joy,


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Posted by on May 30, 2011 in God, God's Image



It all Starts with an Attitude of Gratitude

My life reflects my thoughts. If I am happy and upbeat then I see opportunity and grace everywhere. If my day starts off with a mishap, then the whole day seems to follow suit. For most of us, life is like this; full of ups and downs with happy times and sad times. Why can’t it be happy all the time? I have some great news for you, it can. All you need to do is learn the art of being grateful.  Whether you are seeking a higher spiritual level or just peace of mind, gratitude opens the door.

Gratitude can be defined as an acceptance of things just the way they are. Think about it; if you can accept things as is, then you can’t have any complaints. This acceptance creates the ability to attract what you desire to come to you. By replacing your old pity party thoughts with new thoughts of gratitude, you can change your life. For example, instead of moaning about the price of gas, be grateful that you have money (or credit) to buy gas and a vehicle to put it into. Instead of wishing you had more money, be grateful you have a job. Instead of criticizing your spouse, notice their good qualities.

As you become more at ease with thinking in terms of gratefulness, your life is going to change and amazing things will happen.  All of a sudden, you start to feel better and have peace of mind. Your relationships change and become more exciting. Your health improves and you experience increased abundance. Everywhere you look you will see things through your new outlook called gratitude. Best of all, this outlook is contagious. You will inspire others to become like you.

This process doesn’t happen over night. It is something you need to practice consistently, knowing that the more you practice, the better you will get at it. It is like getting rid of an old habit and replacing it with a new one. Get a notebook and start jotting down all the things you are grateful for. Get excited about your list and make it your new best friend. Keep it close at hand and read it two or three times a day, adding new reasons to be grateful whenever possible. As well as reading your list, meditate on what you are grateful for at least once a day, so gratitude can become part of your everyday thinking. After all, the goal of developing an attitude of gratitude is so that you can live a happier life.

Peace, Love and Abundance,


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Posted by on May 29, 2011 in attitude of gratitude


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Why am I Here?

Many people have asked me how and why I became  involved with self-help.  The answer is simple.  A few years ago I did something that I was ashamed of.  I felt like I didn’t deserve to live.  In order to survive that dark time, I had to learn how to forgive myself.

The healing started with tapping.  It is called Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT for short.  It is a simple  technique that reminds me of meditation and acupuncture. It is easy to learn and can instantly relieve stress.  In my case, the stress was so great that when I tapped I would also cough.  After several sessions, I realized my coughing was my body’s way of releasing the negative emotions I was harbouring.  The more I tapped the less I coughed. 

I originally started tapping to help me understand why I had such a hard time financially.  If you could call money a friend, it wasn’t mine.  Money had always eluded me and in our down economy, that had become a problem.  The lack of money was what caused my downfall, so I needed to find a way to get over what I saw as an insurmountable mountain.  Tapping helped, but  for me, it wasn’t enough. What it did do though, was expose me to the movie, THE SECRET.

Ahhhh, The Law of Attraction.  How simple could that be. Just think about what you want and you  get it.  I spent days, weeks even, trying to rid my mind of all my negative thoughts so I could replace them with positive ones. That was the only way I could be open to attracting the money I wanted.  But the money didn’t come.  Instead I found more doors opening which all led to an abundance of knowledge that changed my life.

I think my biggest ah ha moment came when I realized I needed to live an attitude of gratitude in order to get what I wanted, including money.  Furthermore, I have come to realize that there is an infinite amount of money in the universe and I can have as much of it as I want as long as I am grateful for everything in my life.  But I was learning that it wasn’t just  money I wanted.  I wanted a totally abundant life and that included much more than money.

Abundance comes in a variety of ways.  I could have abundant wealth, but I could also have abundant relationships, abundant adventure, abundant health, abundant luck.  I could have it all.  And it was OK to want it all.  There was just one small hitch  and that was, I had to share.  Why should I have it all, when all of us want it all. So even though there is infinite abundance I had to learn to share.

Well my Christian upbringing helped me understand that. I understood paying it forward.  I understood tithing.  I knew you couldn’t out give God and the more you gave the more you get.  All wonderful concepts except I grew to see that living a totally abundant life is giving even more away, not necessarily money. 

After practicing living an attitude of gratitude for awhile and sharing, I began to feel like my brain was being rewired.  I no longer thought from my victim mentality.  I almost immediately saw the bright side of things.  So much so that I began to recognize the negative side of people whom I had previous thought were positive influences on me.  I began telling them they had to think positive. 

Claiming my new attitude of gratitude has been the life changing experience I had been looking for.  If I never make a dime, I will still be happy.  I see life so differently now.  There is joy to be found everywhere and in everything.  I have been able to forgive my family; I have forgiven myself; I don’t get angry anymore or frustrated.  Don’t let me mislead you.  I am not perfect, but I have found so much joy that I want to tell the world how they can find it too.

Keep following me folks and together we will explore this topic and many others which will lead you out of the dark and into the light. 

Peace and Joy,


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Posted by on May 28, 2011 in forgiveness


I am Victorious

Hey Folks….  This is day number two of writing my blog and I am really getting into it.  So much so that I have already come to the conclusion that my original idea of writing a blog geared towards victims isn’t really what I want.   I hate to be called a victim.  It is such a limiting label.  I want to be victorious.  I can do anything when I am VICTORIOUS.  Therefore, if I don’t want to label myself a victim, how can I justify calling anyone else a victim, especially if my desire is to help others grow. 

When we embark on changing our life for the better we become victors.  Just trying to change makes us victorious.  We may not always reach our goal, but we tried and that effort is worth something.  It shows that we have what it takes.  We may lack important information needed to reach a goal, but the  information we lack is readily available somewhere. We just need to find it. So don’t give up, you are on the right course.

In the last few months I have been writing a short booklet I call, LIVING A LIFE OF JOYFUL EXPECTANCY.  In it I discuss several topics I believe we all need to embrace in order to be happy.  Even more than happy; joyful.  And with joy comes victory.  It was not my original plan to share it here but I have changes my mind as this blog seems headed in that direction.  So in the next days and weeks I will post snippets here to give some umph to my blog points.

Have a wonderful victorious day.

Peace and love,


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Posted by on May 27, 2011 in self help


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